THE SCIENCE OF FLIRTING
                                       

Have you ever wonder: Is this person filtring with me?, based of the recent articles  from Jean Smith a well know philanthropist eventhough some people think learning how to flirt is unnesesary, it is.
Over the last decade they way we flirt has changed, people prefer digital ways of communication despite at some point you must meet in person.

The docotor research the filtring behavior of people from London,Paris,Stockholm and New York and found out six ways they all had in common, six ways they could signal they were filtring and understood someone was filtring with them:Humor,Open body language,Touch,Attention,Prosimity and Eye contact.

Humor is the most common due to people constantly using it for attracting anyone,but a shared sense of humor is what helps us creating an instant connection knowing someone the frist time.Open body lenguage shows genuine interest towards anybody that is why crossed arms,feet pointing at different directions and the way we use our hands while we talk.Touch like humor it also has a positive  physiological respond for example: shoulders are a safe place to touch but as you get closer to the hand the touch increases intimacy.Dr Smith had found that touch is what people are the most worried.
But she belives touch shows instant interest.
Atenttion is used in physcology to examinate the situation based of observation between the interactions form a group of people,Proximity is about the human nature of getting closer by what we like and explore further,so if you are attracted, great! if your not watch out your personal space.Eye contact  is the most obvious which has no need for explanation.

So when we change our perspective towards flirting as not a big deal and in situations were we often feel nervious or sel councious we have scientific tools to help us remeber what to do.And see it as a check list not as a stranger evaluation of our worth.